Comparison Is the Thief of Joy

As women, why are we always wishing we were like somebody else? We compare ourselves to other women and find ourselves wanting. And it’s usually one woman in particular that we think is larger than life. You know the one. You’re thinking of her right now.  You think: she’s funnier, she’s more interesting, she’s got more friends, her face is prettier, her pictures on Instagram are styled better. It’s a constantly running commentary of how you just don’t measure up. You might even do it subconsciously.

Maybe you even start to root against her. You think: she’s not all that great. You start to justify your negative feelings towards her by putting her down. Somehow, you think that’ll make you better by comparison.

Friends, why do we do this? Why do we find the need to compare ourselves to other women? I think it’s because we often come from a place of scarcity-that there’s not enough love out there for her and us. That we’re somehow competing for whatever prize we value: acceptance, recognition, friends, attention, love.

But here’s the thing: there’s plenty of love. There’s plenty of acceptance. There’s plenty of affirmation. We’re just looking for it in the wrong place. It’s not found in an Instagram feed. In fact, it’s not found in the words of others at all.

Friends, you have been more abundantly accepted, loved, and spoken for than you could ever imagine. God has called you by name. His overwhelming attention and admiration is upon you. Boy, does He love you. And He doesn’t love you because you are funnier than her or prettier than her. He made her. He made you. He loves you both with a fiery, incredible, overwhelming fire.

God is so overwhelming that when Moses talked to Him, his face would glow. God is so magnificent that Moses couldn’t look at His face or he would die. And this is the Creator. We’re so focused on how we measure up to other creations. Yet you are uniquely beautiful and completely accepted as is. Let’s not let comparison steal our joy. Our joy comes from the Lord.

God delights in you. You have done nothing and will never do anything to deserve that delight. Yet He gives it freely and abundantly. Let’s rejoice! Let’s turn from our comparison. Let’s dwell on the Lord. He assigns your value-not you or anyone else.

“When Moses came down from Mount Sinai with the two tablets of the covenant law in his hands, he was not aware that his face was radiant because he had spoken with the Lord.” -Exodus 34:29

“The Lord takes pleasure in those who fear him, in those who hope in his steadfast love.” -Psalm 147:11

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